How To Choose The Best Menu For Your Wedding
Getting married is arguably one of the most stressful experiences you will have to endure! Why? Because whilst you’re planning perfection for your big day, you also need to consider every single person who is attending your wedding and how your decisions will affect them. Maybe your Babies Breathe bouquet will have to be re-considered because your great aunt has severe hay fever, maybe there’s a ‘sensitive’ eater who insists on organic, maybe all the kids have ADHD and threaten to ruin the day unless entertained with a creche!
And what’s worse, once you’ve accommodated for the fusspots you need to deal with the crackpots; your ancient great grandmother talking about how it was in her day, or distant relatives turning snob over the choice of wine.
Sometimes the opinions and complaints of other people can leave the couple fighting, and that is the last thing you want, especially since your wedding is supposed to be the best day of your life.
Our recommendation is to do what makes you happy, even if you risk disappointing one or two people. However, to make the day cause as little conflict as possible, there are ways to make everything work. In this, part 2 of our 3 part series, we’re going to look at food, and give you some advice on how to deal with your wedding menu.
Choosing the Menu
Nearly everyone is a fussy eater, and everyone requires different options for their diets. The first stage of planning this area is to ask everyone to point out any dietary requirements when they RSVP, this way you will be able to plan a menu with the caterer more effectively.
How do I make the main meal suitable for all diets?
Most weddings will offer a meat option and a vegetarian option for the main meal. This will usually cover most dietary requirements as people with religious diet requirements and pescetarians will also be able to choose the vegetarian option. You may choose a bigger range for your menu to accommodate for people who don’t like certain meats or vegetarian dishes, but this can be costly. Chances are everyone will like at least on course on the menu, and they can fill up later at the buffet.
What drinks should I provide for the reception?
Hotels and caterers will often offer either cocktails or champagne for the reception; this can be a cheaper option than letting people choose their own drinks. Some people may not like champagne or your choice of cocktail, and you need to consider that a lot of your guests will be driving too. Champagne is usually expected, but it’s very expensive, even if you only serve one glass per guest.
This is where conflict can arise, because there will be guests at your wedding who prefer one drink or another, and they may all try to influence your decision. We recommend overcoming this problem by choosing a standard drink such as champagne or prosecco, as this is usually what people expect to be drinking at the wedding reception. If you want to add something a bit more interesting to your reception champagne, why not purchase some fresh fruit or flavoured liquors to add to the champagne. Allow guests to choose the fruit or liquor according to their preference.
How do I cater for everyone in the evening?
Wedding guests pretty much expect they won’t have much choice when it comes to the wedding meal, but at the buffet they know you will be catering for a lot of people and there will be choice. That means all your guests and family members might contest your buffet choice. You might prefer to save some money on the food in the evening, but remember, not everyone will be drunk and not everyone will eat just anything!
It will probably be your closest family that tries to influence your buffet choice, especially as it’s probably the bride’s parents who have control over the budget. It’s a difficult balancing act to get what you want for your big day, and to keep the people who are paying for it all happy; you don’t want to look ungrateful.
Since the buffet is an array of food, you should be able to find a compromise here. You can offer simple food like sandwiches to keep costs low, but also add a few more luxury items in the desserts section to keep the fussier eaters happy.
Whatever food and drink options you provide, your guests are there to celebrate you as a couple and will respect your decisions (most of them, anyway!) You should go with what makes you happy and as long as you don’t offend or hurt anyone intentionally, it’s perfectly acceptable to do just that.
Bottoms up and enjoy your meal!